My parents died and my step-parents got together | Ask Annalisa Barbieri

You have lost both your parents, and a disrupted childhood with few boundaries. It’s no wonder strong feelings are now exploding out of you

I’m a woman in my 40s. My father died three years ago, my mother two. Three months after my mother’s death, her partner, Alan (not his real name), and my father’s widow, Martine (ditto), told me they were in love and a couple; it had started after my mother’s death.

I felt like a trap was closing in on me. Although I recognise that they seem happy and deserve a new life, when I found out I felt down. Jealous, even. They started popping up together at every family event. I felt like my mother was being erased. But I also felt the troublesome relationship with Martine resurface.

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