Sometimes we slip into exchanges that feel more functional than meaningful, and leave us feeling unseen
The question I am hoping you can help me make sense of the feeling that I just don’t matter any more. I’m 50, divorced, with three children (aged 20, 17 and 15). My ex seems to have given up parenting – to the extent that he recently remarried without even telling them.
My parents are elderly and my mother has been in and out of hospital, but they live five hours away, so it’s hard to help. I changed jobs in the middle of last year, leaving a company I spent 25 years working for, where I was senior and respected. And my job there involved helping people more than in my new one. My role now is in a flatter organisation and helps fewer people (but is much better paid). Finally, my children are amazing.
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