Knowing you want to change is a good sign, writes advice columnist Eleanor Gordon-Smith. It might help to remind yourself of the pain judgment can inflict
I have this compelling drive to improve others that most times ends with me in trouble, as others don’t necessarily want to improve and are happy where they are. It also makes me unpleasant to be with, a never-pleased father figure. Is there a way out of this compulsion?
Eleanor says: There used to be a man not unlike this in my workplace and whenever I saw him a circus MC voice would start playing in my head: “Roll up, roll up, it’s the incredible unsatisfiable man: no shortcoming too small, for two cents he’ll criticise his life but for free he’ll criticise yours!”
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