My husband turns me on – but I can’t stay lubricated during sex

I wonder if antidepressants could be the cause and, if so, what I should do to address this?

I had a problem last year with staying lubricated during intercourse. Although the problem initially went away on its own, it has returned. My husband can make me wet but, as we continue, I dry out. I am on antidepressants, so I wonder if that could be the cause. I haven’t changed anything about my lifestyle. I still feel very much turned on, but I just dry out quickly.

Certain medications can have sexual side-effects, so it may be worth seeing your GP to check this out. However, physiological and psychological issues can also cause problems with arousal and lubrication. In addition, many women require direct clitoral stimulation – not just before but also during intercourse. If you notice your excitement waning, encourage your partner to pleasure you in a way that will get you back on track.

Pamela Stephenson Connolly is a US-based psychotherapist who specialises in treating sexual disorders.

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