Your wife sounds unhappy but pressuring her to go to counselling may suggest you think there is something wrong with her
The dilemma My wife and I have been together for 15 years and we have two primary school-age children.
From the outside, it looks as if we have an idyllic life. The children are happy, we have adventures, we don’t worry about money and we have good jobs.
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